Ever followed an Instagram account where you think “OMG this person just gets it”. Well this wise woman runs one of those accounts – the kind whose posts you send to childhood friends at 3AM with no comment (because none is needed). Kristin's also a very experienced coach who never misses a beat in her observations of you. She's one of my go-to people and I can 100% attest to her super sharp perception!
“We are soul sparks” always says the right thing at the right time in the right way. You’ve definitely tapped into something in the collective unconscious because your success in the last year and a bit has been absolutely phenomenal. What sparked you to kick off this Instagram account?
I’ve always been the go-to person for advice among my friends. I used to spend hours sending Pinterest quotes to people that were relevant for their current situation (breakup, new job, rejection, whatever it was), and frickin’ loved it! I procrastinated like crazy, collecting and sending quotes like this. Little did I know it was all part of my journey. One day I came across one of my favorite Instagram accounts, MindfulMFT, and realised that “insta-blogs” were a thing and I thought, “I have to do this”. Something clicked. I knew it was my next step, my outlet. I felt like I had no choice in the matter, it was something my soul had to do. In the beginning I would sit down and look through my quote boards on Pinterest for inspiration and wait to feel that little jolt of inspiration, of resonance. Then I would ask myself, “what do I need to hear right now?” and write myself a little love note. That’s how it all began.
Which messages of yours really resonate with people and why?
I would say there are two major themes that really seem to hit home with people: letting go of what is not meant for you, and embracing the unknown/trusting the timing of your life. I think they’re so relevant because, in essence, it’s about being present. And in a world that is so over-stimulated, I think that is such a refreshing vibration. We don’t have to try so hard to control everything, sometimes we can just BE.
You’re living in Chicago and seeing a whole heap of soul-searching and change going on in America right now. We’ve spoken about this being a time of change and an opportunity for healing – how do you see this unfolding around you?
I truly believe that sometimes for us to move forward we need to completely shatter. We need to get angry and come undone. We need to fall apart. Leading up to and directly following the election there was so much anger rooted in fear, so much defensiveness. And while there’s definitely still an undercurrent of this (on both sides), right now I’m noticing a shift. Right now we feel tired.
What healing do you think is needed in the world right now? And what does healing mean to you?
To heal the world we need less shouting and more listening. We need less preaching and more understanding. We need less condemning and more compassion. Simply put: less fear, more love. As for what healing means to me, I think it starts at the individual level. I think it’s an internal acceptance of the present moment, when I allow myself to relax into my body, when I feel safe in my skin regardless of the world around me.
How do you contribute to this through your work as a life coach?
As a coach, it’s my mission to truly see people, in all of their faults and fractures. I want them to feel understood and accepted even if I’ve never been through what they’ve been through personally. Even if I don’t agree. I just want them to stop fighting themselves so hard, and that starts with being seen. So yeah, I just want to make people feel seen.
Above: some of the beautiful "We are soul sparks" Instagram posts.
You’re really passionate about people loving themselves and embracing their own beauty. Why is this such a key message of yours?
Because it’s the message that I need to hear the most. I’ve struggled and will continue to struggle with body image issues (it’s one of my soul lessons to learn in this lifetime: how to accept my body no matter it’s size and shape). And what I’ve learned is that everyone wrestles with worthiness, although it manifests differently in each of us. So I just feel so passionate about easing some of that loneliness and pain that I’ve felt personally.
“Words to remind you that we are electric” – this is what you share with us daily. How do you re-charge and remind yourself that you too are magical?
Reading books that remind me of my own expansiveness, whether that be metaphysical/spiritual texts, self-help (but like GOOD self-help, resonant self-help), or even Young Adult novels. I love seeing bits of myself in someone else. It reminds me of our connectedness as humans. The other thing that helps me recharge is being outside. There is nothing more magical than feeling the sun on your face and the wind in your hair. And don’t even get me started on stargazing. That shit is incredible – how can you NOT feel electric and magical when you look up at the sky and realise you’re part of this whole thing!?
What do you need to manage yourself on each day? Or said another way: what’s the thing that you would coach you on?
Getting out of my own damn way. I have a habit of playing small, especially when I get more exposure and recognition. It scares me to up-level, as it does many of us. Marriane Williamson says: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us." And I feel this hard.
What would you consider your most transformative life experience and how has this shaped your approach to your work?
I think I’m right in the middle of it, actually. The visibility I’ve received from my Instagram account has forced me to come out of hiding before I’m ready. It’s triggered insecurities that I’ve had for years but ignored and avoided. It’s forcing me to take ownership of my life and to show up. So TBD on this…
Championing people is something you are great at. And you’re a big advocate of people being whole, complete and perfect just as they are. What’s one piece of advice you would give those standing on the edge of chasing their dreams?
You’re going to have to leap before you’re ready, and that’s okay. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable. It’s okay to be unfinished. You won’t know your boundaries until you cross them, and the same goes with your limits. You’ll make mistakes and then you’ll find your way again and that’s the beauty of your journey.
You’re pretty much an expert on coaching coaches. What are some of the most frequent questions you get asked? What tips do you have for people starting out?
One of the most frequent questions I get is “how do I start?”. And I always say, “just start”. Clarity comes through engagement, not thinking and planning and perfection. So go out there and talk to people. Coach anyone and everyone. Write a blog. Start a podcast. Get your voice out there so you can start to understand your voice. Your message evolves as you do, and people need your message.
Who, what or where inspires you?
Of course there are the usual game changers for me who are always inspiring: Brené Brown, Oprah, Marianne Williamson, etc. But I’m also deeply inspired by the people I coach and the people who reach out to me and share their story. So I guess people inspire me. Like just in general. People are incredible – we are incredible. We are resilient and loving and flawed and incredible.
What are you craving and creating in life right now? How will the rest of 2017 shape up for you
Haha, oh dear Lord, I wish I knew the answer to this question. I quit my day job two weeks ago to coach and write full time so things are a little… uprooted right now. And I’m excited about this next chapter but also a little scattered and that’s okay. My main focus for 2017 is planning more in-person meetups and retreats and writing my book. 2017 is forcing me to step into my light and be seen, which is entirely terrifying and also absolutely necessary.
What would you like us to know about you?
That I’m in-process of becoming who I’m meant to be just like you. Also, that I love Harry Potter, sarcasm and Shark Tank.
If you could leave us with just one message what would it be?
You are exactly where you need to be. We all are. And we’re in this together.
Thank you so much for your time! Keep sharing words to remind us that we are electric! xx